Will you explain your bid for my partner
Friday at the Macon Sectional with Meg, which she and I dominated by the way, she opened 1NT and we had the auction: 1NT-(2S)-3NT-P-P-P. 3NT was alerted and LHO asked before passing over 3NT:
“Are you playing Lebensohl?”
After the final pass, LHO asked: “Will you explain to my partner what Lebensohl is?”
Meg says “You can’t ask for your partner.”
“Well, then explain it to me.”
If she had just started with “please explain” from the very beginning, there would have been no issue but once it became clear that she did not need a further explanation but only wanted it for her partner’s benefit (so her partner wouldn’t lead into Meg’s AQ, maybe), it became unethical. I think Meg went ahead and reluctantly said that it showed game values without a spade stopper.
Moral of the story is that once it becomes clear that you understand the auction, you are not entitled to ask more questions about it. It is your partner’s responsibility to ask for herself. If your partner isn’t experienced enough to know that she has that option, you can kindly explain that after the hand or session.